MIRROR OF DISCIPLINE (FOR THOSE WHO HAVE STRICT PARENTS)

“You bastard pigheaded boy!” the woman screamed as she pointed the ruler at her 18 year old. “You have no respect. You have no right to speak in front of me.” Her harsh voice drowned her son to shamefulness, blushed and teary eyed sitting on the sofa.

The woman now held her cellular phone calling her husband about the event. Her son was now shocked whether his father would be angry with him or would give him another physical assault of what he did.
The boy just wanted to change the negative attitudes of her mother. Her mother employs verbal punishment, such as nagging or scolding, whenever he does small or no mistakes at all. His views were not acknowledged. For her, a child is a child. Besides, the mother took back all the past issues regarding her son’s faults thus letting him know his weaknesses. Is it a model of good parenthood?
“Who are you telling me things like this and that? I told you that the next time you’ll fight with me, hmmph! You’ll see! You can’t change my attitude anymore.” His mother harshly reprimanded.
In fact this boy is very good in their family. He’s quiet and workaholic.
This was his second time to respond with care explaining the things to be changed about his mother’s attitude. However, the massive hand of the woman fell into the helpless face of her son. It is as if her son has the worst attitude of all.
Yes, parents - at any level – have its own ‘parental instincts’. Children’s behaviors resemble to be what personality the parent’s possess. Yet, the boy in this story does not reflect what his mother’s attitude is. There’s no such thing as perfect parents.
Parenthood requires a number of demands, emotional rewards, sacrifices, emotional relationships – all of these and more.
A child should not be considered a child but an individual who has its own intact knowledge. A child should have dignity and be respected.
Other parents say that sometimes children’s attitude have roots in their predecessors. Attitudes are neither hereditary nor instinctive but is learned.
The relationship brought by family bonding can be learned and can be passed from one generation to another.
Learning can be perceived through proper home atmosphere. Such proper atmosphere should not be an iron- rule form of discipline. What if verbal punishment should be done in a firm and loving way, not in loud- voiced command? Discipline can be imposed with freedom. What is the use of physical assault and too many rules if discipline can be freely imposed but with reasonable limits? Is it good to be suspicious of a child’s behavior, supervise too much and expect too much from your children?
Mistakes could be straightened and it’s pointless to say that attitude can absolutely never be changed. Maybe that’s the only way upon which other parents do because they’re discomfited to be taught by their children.
With no reasons to say anymore, the boy just kept himself in silence. The next day showed as if nothing happened. One late afternoon, his father called him, “My son, I know it’s not your fault. Try to talk to your mother after her temper has already subsided.” Anyhow, the boy didn’t talk to her for he was ashamed.
Parents must have trust with their children. With trust, rules can be made out of few patterns, but reinforced.
With few rules, negative peer pressure can’t influence a child for he has the reasoning power to fight the evildoers.
Kind requests are good rather than commands. Parents must have the ears to listen to the views of their children.
The mirror of discipline need not be always patterned in an iron- rule style. Child’s character could somehow be taught in his younger years.
After the semestral break, the boy went to their distant city where he studied. He carried the feeling of uncertainty asking himself why can’t he change his mother’s attitude. He has no act of rebellion against his mother. All he need was reformation. He prayed.
Time is running. At last, Christmas vacation. He returned to their hometown. Seeing his mother smiling is an indication that they’re still good to one another. As each day passed by, he kept on observing his mother. He said to himself that maybe his mother has changed by now.
Warm relationship in their home is one of the sweetest things that the boy had ever received in his whole life. Parenting is the most crucial affection in building a family relationship aside from marriage.